This much I know is true.

In my 5 short years of motherhood, I have learned that there are some hot topics that should never be debated. These topics are as follows

drug free birth/epidural

breastfeeding/formula fed

stay at home/work out of the home

attachment parenting/cry it out, sleep in crib, sit in a stroller

All of these 'issues' are fervently defended from both sides...just log on to any Mommy message board and you will hear from a bunch of catty bitches that have nothing more to think about since becoming a stay at home mom. I actually used to be one of those catty bitches. Then I had my second child and I realized that Motherhood is more about what works for your family and for your sanity and for your survival during these tender years. Oh, and I've learned to never say never.

Another debatable issue is carseats. I absolutely agree that kids should be in a 5 point harness until 65 lbs. That is the safest choice, even though the law is a 5 point harness until 40 lbs. But I have a car, and when it came time to shell out money for a convertible carseat (rear facing until the kid is 1, then use it forward facing until their reach 40 to 65 lbs depending on the seat you choose.) the carseat that would last up to 65 lbs was too large to fit in my sedan rear facing...so chose the Roundabout that holds kids up to 40 lbs. Well now I have a child that is 2 that weighs 44 lbs. Yes that is the same weight at my 5 year old.
I went to target today to weigh my options. I peeked at the beloved Britax Marathon that went up to a bajillion lbs and that cost a bajillion dollars. Then I looked at the simple Graco booster seat that was $40.


Two other ladies and I were all looking for carseats for kids that were the same size as Kennen. Me and a grandmother were leaning toward buying the same booster seat when a fourth woman happened to pass by us. She stopped in her tracks and loudly told us that what we were choosing was just cheap plastic blah blah blah. I told her that I would love a Marathon, but I didn't want to pay $300+ for it. Then she stepped up onto her soapbox and really got angry with me. I didn't say anything else except for smiling and saying, "You really are absolutely right." And then I told the 2 ladies I was shopping next to that they should listen to her because that was the safest route. Then I put my $40 booster seat into my shopping cart next to a very excited little boy. Then the Grandmother put a booster seat in her cart. I smiled and said 'Thank you,' to the carseat nazi and she just sighed, looked at Kennen and shook her head.

Can I just say that I fucking hate judgmental people? What is with the fucking Mommy wars? I'm not thrilled about taking my kid out of the 5 point harness but I dont deserve to feel like I am throwing him into a snake pit. She had her kids with her and they ranged in ages 8 months to 10 years old. I didn't give my opinion on her quality of 'homeschooling' aka shopping at Target and giving unsolicited advice.

I am mostly frustrated at myself because I used to work at a USA Baby part time when Kim was born and I was trained to be a the car seat nazi. I was the one using scare tactics to get parents to buy Britax. I believed in the product. Despite all that, somehow I've come to think that a booster is perfectly acceptable for 40+ lb kids.

Now I feel like I need to return it. I dont know what to do. Anybody want to weigh in?

Here is a picture of the devil chair, The Graco TurboBooster: